My spouse will not eat leftovers. He makes fun of me when I bring them home from a restaurant; however, I 99% of the time eat them. I liked to bring a warm lunch to work – easy eat half of my dinner, eat the other half for lunch the next day!
He will rarely bring home leftovers, even if there is food left to bring. And then ever rarer eat leftovers that come from said restaurant and even food made at home.
When I think through – he might do mashed potato leftovers on the side of a new meat. He might do spaghetti leftovers. Not much else.
So imagine my surprise today when I hear hollering and banging from the kitchen when he comes home on lunch break…?
There was two different chicken leftovers in the fridge… One of which I reheated (honestly thinking it was the older of the two)…. Nope… I ate what he was going to eat… AH! The one time you are going to eat leftovers…? He threw the other chicken into the sink…. Smashed around the fridge and left.
This is why I’m questioning if I’m in an abusive (narcissist) relationship…?
Grandiose sense of self-importance
Lives in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur
Needs constant praise and admiration
Sense of entitlement
Exploits others without guilt or shame
Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others
As I’ve been thinking about how much I want to preserve this relatioship after everything else that has happened in the last year… I wonder… Why do I keep allowing someone to let me walk on egg shells all day, every day… If I eat the wrong food… If I say the wrong thing… If I set a boundary…. If I ask for a need…